It has come to my attention, again, that the fondling of the past and the fear of the future is prevalent focus of many people. I wrote much about fear of the future yesterday and will write more here today, but I will concentrate on the fondling of the past. I have spoken many times about my past in order that I may use my past experience as a catapult to outline concerns of others.
I have experienced a childhood/and early adulthood that was no less than desirable or magical. It was full of turmoil and oppositions to a joyful life. Now knowing this doesn’t make the experiences of my past of no value. They have value in as far as they have help me define what I don’t want, but are not to be entertained repeatedly or fondled to death. Meaning if I ponder, lament and regurgitate the past it only serves to manifest more of the same experiences of the past and I live the same reality over and over again. Yikes! I don’t want that.
It can be helpful to acknowledge those experiences of the past that hang us up now, but only briefly and then it’s important to quickly move on to focusing on the present, focusing on the experience you desire to have now. Lamenting, speaking or focusing on what your parents said to you or what they did to you only serves to keep the effects of those past experiences alive and manifesting more of the same.
Some may think that in order to move forward that they must pick through the past to figure out how it all came to be. Not! Picking through the negative past brings up old pain, reinstates that pain and thought long enough on; manifests more of the same. Remember what I’ve said before; your brain does not know the difference between what you are imagining and what you are actually, at present, experiencing. When you are recalling and fondling negative past experience your brain believes, siting the strong emotion, that the past experience is occurring at present, thus, as in visualization/emotionalization, laying a foundation for an unwanted manifestation.
When we want to do something different but are afraid our brain wants to go back in time to site and validate your fear. Your mind wants to find evidence, in the past, that will confirm that what you fear will happen, if you do that thing you are thinking about, will not have a positive outcome. You remember that, when you or someone else tried that thing you are thinking about, it did not turn out well.
A good example would be deciding to allow yourself to be in love. In the past you have been in love and it turned out tragically. You experienced so much pain, after you chose to open your heart to love, that it has implanted the idea in your brain that love=pain.
So upon considering, allowing yourself to fall in love at present, fearing the pain, your mind travels back in time for evidence that indeed allowing yourself to fall in love is a bad idea. The trouble with is that it only perpetuates the same experience over and over. And if you decide to forget the past, for this moment, and leap into loves arms repetitive fearful thoughts of what happened the last time will eventually manifest the tragic painful end just like last time; because your brain does not know the difference between a past experience remembered and what is presently in your experience. Thought manifests your experience.
In the circumstance of using a positive past experience to heighten your good feeling thoughts this is beneficial. Certainly you want to remember positive past experience to help you manifest more of the same. Some people however live there wishing to relive that exact experience. Take heart there is so much more to experience. That positive past experience is not the last, or the good old days, it is one of many to come and more joyful than the last. Use good emotions from past positive recollection in order to identify magnify and expand positive emotion.
Another belief that many have is that they need to forgive, one by one, all the people in the past that harmed and caused them low self-esteem, lack of confidence or self-degradation in order that they be able to move forward and change these feelings about themselves. This is a fallacy, for what you give your attention to expands. If you focus on or think of the urgent need to forgive someone particular you are focused on, paying attention too, something you believe is lacking. Giving your attention to the element of forgiveness just keeps it all in play. It says, “I am a victim that needs retribution.” In the requirement to forgive you are confirming you are a victim; which will make you always, a victim.
Forget about forgiveness, for it is of the past, and focus on how you desire today to be. Confirm what and who you are today. Focus on the life experience you wish to manifest and yesterday will fall away. Yesterday is no longer important.
Now if you find yourself repeating a past practice of a particular habitual thought or emotion that keeps intruding on your wish to manifest something different then it would be helpful to go back in time to discover some details that began this habit. Ask yourself, when you are feeling that same negative feeling again, “What thought sparked that emotion” Once the thought is identified then trace it back to its origin and discount it. Then quickly and immediately replace that negative thought or belief with the positive, the antonym. It’s important not to spend a lot of time in the past.
Your power is in the now; not in the yesterdays or the preparation for the future. Take care of today and everything thereafter will follow suit.
Today, right now, this moment make a decision to focus on what you desire. Focus on the moment. Appreciate this moment. Eventually tomorrow will be this moment and again focus on this moment. Lament not of the past and fear not the future.
Fear of the future manifests a future of fear.
Joy of the now manifests another now of joy. And since all you really have is NOW, make the now joyful and all now’s to follow will be joyful.
Be Well
Love Michelle
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