Becoming addicted to anything happens when you continually partake of the thing repeatedly and over time you become addicted to that thing. We become addicted to negative thinking, drama, struggle, sorrow, anger, and suspicion for many reasons but mostly because it simply makes us feel.We may have felt like we have lost touch with our feelings. We can become numb and after a number of years of feeling this way we seek something that will make us feel something, anything. Like the child who behaves badly, doesn't care what kind of attention that is received, simply for attention. We know that those habitual negative thoughts make us feel. They get our adrenaline pumping and we feel better for having felt something. These thoughts often bring up anger which is a powerful emotion that can propel us into changing something in our lives.Anger is actually better than any of the other so called negative emotions for it is an emotion that is above depression. Depression is debilitating but anger has power behind it.Unfortunately what people often do is repeat a loop back down to depression and back to anger because they are not comfortable with anger or someone else isn't. But anger is very important as a catalyst to move up to an emotion that will bring us closer to experiencing a good feeling emotion. At this point it’s important to exploit your anger. Do not allow what others think or your discomfort to pull you back to depression.
Stay angry for a while and then entertain better feeling thoughts.We become addicted to anger because it brings a powerful emotion and we feel better. Because before anger there was depression where you feel nothing, you just feel numb. But staying in anger does not bring us the good or positive emotion we so desperately seek. And eventually our thoughts return to anger out of addiction to them. Then we just don't realize we are thinking negatively, all we know is that we are feeling. This definitely is a focus in fear.
The good news is that can become addicted to new ways of thinking. It is a matter of continually talking about new thoughts such as love, joy, peace, unlimited opportunities. Think about the better feeling thoughts. Everything we feel started with a thought. Sometimes we think that our emotions bring the thoughts first. But really our thoughts started the emotions and then as the emotions get stronger they bring more thought.So, start with your thoughts. Write down everything good that has ever happened to you. Write down everything good that you desire. Write down what you appreciate.
Work your way up the feelings chart above. Locate what you are feeling/thinking and entertain thoughts on the emotion just above where you are and dwell there for a while and then up to the next feeling and on. Work your way up to feeling and thinking more positive and stick with it, eventually you will become addicted to the new thoughts.
Be Well
Love Michelle
Dear Michelle,
ReplyDeleteI hope I'm not bothering you.
I wonder if I'm confusing the issue by wanting freedom and independence, but for right now I am working part-time at a job and looking for another job which is completely the opposite of freedom and independence. I just need money.
Thanks for all your help. By the way I tried to contact you using your website, but it would not let me send it.
JoAnna
Dear JoAnna,
ReplyDeleteI know that it can seem like that you must pay more attention to what is seen as your reality, i.e. you just need money and that the work that you desire that gives you freedom and independence will just have to wait. You are separating them and believing that you can only have one or the other.
We often believe that in order to have the desired life experience, like freedom and independence, that we must work hard for it. In this belief you WILL have to work hard before you have the life of freedom and independence; because you believe this is the only way it happens.
In addition you may also believe that you have to set aside the life you desire, for now, in order to survive; but this is a viscous cycle that only perpetuates more of this same scenario.
Why not, while you keep your eyes open for a job/income, keep in mind that you desire freedom and independence. Seize the separation of the need for income and the desire for freedom and independence.
Visualize yourself enjoying freedom and independence with the desired income flowing in.
Think in terms of thriving instead of surviving. If you are stuck in thoughts of survival, a fear based thought, then you will be exuding a vibration of desperation and nothing you desire, can be attracted to you; desperation attracts more to be desperate about.
Believe it or not you could have everything you desire without ever working hard for money if you believe that everything you want comes to you easily; All you have to do is want.
I want a life of abundance,freedom and independence. Then let the universe do it's work.
Your work is to relax, visualize, and enjoy and just be.
"Everything I want is on its way"
Be Well
Love Michelle