I Looked Good when I Left the House!

Have you ever prepared yourself to go somewhere, styled your hair just right, put on your favorite best looking outfit, applied your make-up perfectly, adorned yourself with jewels and walked out of the house feeling like you really really looked good, that you were on top of the world and you were really hot, but then....; you stepped out into the public eye and instantly you felt as if you had done nothing with your appearance and you now look like crap!

What happened? You looked great when you left the house but then you noticed someone that you believed looked better. You began to judge yourself as ugly, fat, old, well basically unattractive. And this occurs even more rapidly when your significant other shoots a pleasurable glance at someone else you believe is more attractive than you. What's with him/her, you really spent time making yourself look great and he/she is checking someone else out. You become certain that he/she is measuring you against or comparing you with this more attractive person. You may be certain that the real issue is your significant other is looking for someone better looking than you and you may be entertaining thoughts that he/she is on the way out.

Even worse you scan the people and begin calculating who is more or less attractive than you. You notice someone you are sure is more attractive than you and you watch who looks their way and even worse you watch your significant other to see if he/she is lusting after this person. And then you become certain that other's opinions of you are highly negative. You are certain that they are thinking that you are unattractive.

Is the problem that you are just an unattractive person and you need to do something about it? Is the problem that your significant other is looking for someone else more attractive and you are painfully aware of this?

Neither of these things are the problem. The problem is your self-esteem, you self-view and your self-judgment. You were fine when the only opinion that mattered, at home alone, was yours. But as soon as you entered the public eye you began to judge yourself and compare yourself with others. You then aloud, what you believed others were thinking about you, to infiltrate your thoughts and then tore yourself down. And you don't even know if they had an opinion in the first place.

How you view yourself, without the opinion of others, is very important. You think that others opinions of you, matter when they don't. Why should any ones opinion, but your own, matter? We believe societies ideas, beliefs and opinions of what is attractive and then begin comparing ourselves with this ideal.

I was surfing the Internet the other day and noticed that there were good many articles, along with photos, online about a Pierce Brosnan's wife, Keely Shaye-Smith. The critical focus; Keely's weight. I was annoyed at this focus and thought about how often this occurs, how often that people are focused on what they believe are flaws and what they believe is unattractive. It was stated that she is fighting the battle of the bulge; really, how do they know. How do they know that she even worries about it or is fighting against her weight. And if she decided her weight was a personal issue, she may manifest being thin.

Never mind that Keely has a great talent for working with people and causes, never mind that she is happily married to a gorgeous hunk, never mind that she is a great mother, has a beautiful delightful smile and spirit. She has obviously manifested an amazing life. Considering her interviews, opinions and views it is apparent that Keely has great self-esteem, is happy and centered. I was impressed that she sported a bikini, in public, with dignity.

When people read these postings about Keely and others, it only perpetuates the fear of being judged and compared. This kind of media just assures us that other peoples opinions matter. Furthermore there is more important things to focus on other than what we believe others are struggling with. And I reiterate, limit your viewing of media or you will find many negative thoughts launched.

Self-esteem comes from never entertaining another opinions and holding our opinion, of our self, as nothing less than divine. It comes from thinking or believing that we are nothing less than a beautiful

powerful, creative energy in physical form. It comes from knowing, without a doubt, that no ones opinion matters, about us, more than our own. Someones opinion of what kind of food tastes good, which is usually unimportant to you, is no different than someones opinion about how you look or who you are. It's just an opinion!

We never feel bad about ourselves because someone else is thinking negative things about us. We feel bad about ourselves because our opinion of our self is negative, because we are judging ourselves and comparing ourselves with others. And if we continue down this path we manifest ourselves in the view we have in our minds and we manifest thing like our significant other stepping out.

What we think on or believe is manifested.

It's time to realize that who we are was manifested out of how we think. So now it's time focus on how amazing, powerful, beautiful, and divine we are. A good place to start; think about what you would tell a child about themselves then tell yourself the same thing. Find a role model that exudes self-confidence, regardless of the public opinion on them, and focus on this. Write your list of things you appreciate about yourself, after all you write the negative list, in your head, of what you loath about yourself. And usually what you loath about yourself is something you believed someone else believed about you.

Stop comparing yourself with someone else you think is better. Compare yourself with yourself. Realize there is no one better than you only different and different is good. If there is something about someone else you admire and wish to be your experience then focus on the desired experience and manifest this. Pick and choose, from people you admire, the parts of their lives that you admire and desire to be your experience. There is a banquet of unlimited experiences that you can manifest as yours.

And when you leave the house looking and feeling good hold this feeling, regardless of the conditions and opinions around you, throughout your public experience.

Look at your reflection in a window and say, "Damn I look Good!"

Be Well

Love Michelle