Good day to all from my Skycastle in Germany. I am happy to be back from my trip to the U.S. where I enjoyed my time with my children and my grandchildren. What a delight it was to see my son's joyous tears over the birth of his first child.
I was pleased during my visit that, unlike in the past, I was able to maintain a high vibration while being in the presence, of some peoples lower vibration.
This has been my struggle in the past. I have always, in the past, offered my energy to others, who were vibrating at a low level, bringing them up to a higher vibration. My husband calls me their cheerleader. It is draining and I was in conflict because I felt that if I didn't offer them a boost up that I would be unable to be in the presence of many of my family members. The problem with this is that they would begin to vibrate at a higher level and my vibration, from pure exhaustion, would lower.
I struggled with feeling anxiety and dread, every time, just before I left to visit family members who I knew were vibrating at a lower level. I didn't really want to make the long trip to visit them because it was so much work and not a lot of fun for me.
However, after practicing keeping my vibration at a high level, for so long now and realizing, finally, that it is not my job to make other's happy nor was I able to make them happy; at least for any great length of time I was able to maintain a high vibration. I noticed while I was in the presence of people vibrating at a low level, that I no longer felt compelled to fix them in anyway. I noticed that it no longer mattered to me where they were vibrating and I knew that it was up to them to raise their own vibration. I also knew, now, that they have the right to manifest what ever they choose, and it's none of my concern. I also noticed that because I was vibrating at a high level that only those who were also vibrating at a high level were drawn to me; Law of Attraction in Action.
Focusing on raising your vibration level is of the utmost importance. Spending as much time as possible focusing only on what you want is the key. The more you focus on what you want and the longer you spend time doing this the stronger your ability to do so becomes.
It took me a year, being away from the States, American T.V. and low vibration people, to come to this point where I am able to maintain a high vibration no matter what. I spent much time re-focusing my thoughts, constantly, before I came to a point that it mattered not what was going on around me or who was around me.
In the past, specifically around my family, I allowed myself to be sucked into their low vibration. I used to be sure that it was their fault that I was unhappy. It had seemed like that every time I just got up and running, well ,on some project, life direction or goal, that one of them would turn up ill, in crisis or need and these events would seize my intended direction; and I was resentful. I accused them, privately, of being focused on ruining my life. I was sure that they were aware of my intentions, or that I was happy, and they were out to destroy my happiness. After all, I had proof, because they would turn up in crisis every time I was on a roll. It was easy to site this. I had the real stories to prove it and no one, except my husband, refuted my sitings. My husband continually said, "Why do you let them effect you like this?" I would just repeat my findings. Being the strong personality that I am, he would just comfort me the best way he knew.
However, after studying the Law of Attraction for several years I finally realized that what was occurring outside of me was due to what was occurring inside me. It was a matter of two things; one, keeping my vibration high no matter what and two, I had to stop focusing on my families behavior. In focusing on my families behavior, what i was sure they were going to do, they certainly did. I expected the same old behavior and received the same behavior. I had to realize that my thoughts were the problem not them. How I felt about their behavior, what I expected they would do and blaming them was the problem.
How you think, feel and see a situation or people creates or manifests your reality. I had to change how I thought, thus changing how I felt and saw the situation or people. I decided to focus on what I wanted and did. I focused on how much I appreciated my life, with my husband, in Europe. I focused on my newly founded work. I focused on my writing, art and designing. I focused on what I wanted in my life.
Eventually, without the other people changing their behavior, I was no longer effected by anything anyone else did or didn't do. It's not a matter of changing anyone else's behavior, it's a matter of changing how I think. No ones life or behavior ever need seep into my experience. It is their experience. I focus on my experience and what I want as my experience.
It seems like more of a struggle, to focus on your own life, when it comes to family. I had to let go of my guilt, of feeling like it was my responsibility to make my family happy. For a long time I received slack from distant relatives for having abandon my family, in need, and caring more about myself. However, in caring more about myself I changed how I thought and felt, raised my vibration and teach by example.
If everyone focused on their own lives, raising their vibration, and became happy then no one would ever be in crisis. No one would need anyone else to make them feel good. I have discarded my guilt because I discarded the idea that I was responsible for anyone else's happiness. No one else is responsible for your life experience. No one else is responsible for making you feel good, happy or feel love for yourself.
Someones behavior or what they think about you need affect how you feel about yourself or your life.
I feel such joy now that I know that all I have to do is focus on what I want. I feel joy because I keep my focus on joy and thus my vibration is of joy. I am able to inspire others to do the same by being able to maintain my high vibration and receive all that I desire.
I am so pleased that, on my trip to see my family, that I was able to maintain my high vibration. It has shown my my great progress and I appreciate this experience. What is occurring inside of you creates what is occurring outside of you.
I know now that no matter what is occurring in my world that I can remain in a high vibration, remain happy and I alway's have the power to manifest the life experience I prefer.
Be Well
Love Michelle